The Kano Whom Came to Visit #3 – Life in Blur Motion

8pm, MNL

We arrived in Manila along with the sunset. The islands east of Luzon faded into the metallic haze of the ocean as we descended.

In the airport, passing through Immigration was a breeze.

Waiting for us at baggage claim was our friend Alice, who had returned to the Philippines for work after 18 years in the United States. Alice was seated on the edge of the carousel with her head down, immersed in the world of her iphone. My eyesight, as low-res as the lousy pictures that come out of my CrackBerry, were having trouble processing all the vagaries and newness of the blue-toned, green-aired blur of space.

Our baggage arrived towards the end, governed it seems by a de facto rule that balikbayan boxes1, of which there was a symphony orchestra’s worth, have precedence over traditional luggage.

We passed without hesitation through Customs, both of us using the line marked ‘Returning Overseas Workers’. It seemed the better of the two options: the other line was marked “Items to Declare.”

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1 A balikbayan box is a square cardboard box of fixed dimension (24” x 24” x 24” ), usually white with the word “BALIKBAYAN” imprinted on it, which Filipinos who are returning to the islands from another country fill with gifts (pasalubong), clothing, electronics, etc. for their family. These boxes are ubiquitous in airports and are an integrated part of Filipino culture. For a more erudite discussion of balikbayan boxes, see “Balikbayan Boxes as Metaphors for Filipino American (Dis)Location”, by Jade Alburo.

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To drive or be driven?

The first overwhelming sensation to hit you when you step outdoors at Manila International Airport is a Pacquiao-like triple pounding of heat, noise and the smell of diesel exhaust. After 20 hours in a manufactured environment designed to reduce the likelihood of rebellion, this moist smoky cloud into which we’ve stepped is disorienting and goes a long way in explaining the verve of a people with a centuries-long history of fighting off foreign invaders.

MNL Manila International at night

The first of a thousand logistical events that Arvin will have to address over the ensuring two weeks begins with car rental. The question: to rent and drive, or to rent and be driven.

Alice, unequivocably: “Get a driver.”

The relentless chatter of business taking place at the half dozen smoky enclosures at the rental car office elevates to a din. Taxis queue up outside. Cigarette smoke from idol cabbies weaves fractal patterns in the air. The heat creeps into the rental office whenever the door opens, defying the relief given by air conditioning.

car rentals MNL

After some negotiation – mind you, sentences in Tagalog are shorter than in English but multitudinous; discussions are more extensive; it takes a greater number of words to arrive at a conclusion of similar length – after logistical task #1 is accomplished, we head to the parking lot, to Alice’s car. We will stay the night at her new townhouse in Manila. At ten a.m. the following morning a car with driver will pick us up at her place and deliver us to Arvin’s family in the province of Bulacan, vicinity of Malolos.

Grunting acceptance amid the chaos of perpetual motion

By the time we left the airport and walked to Alice’s car, everything was a muted shade of dark. The sky was dark. The parking lot was dimly lit. As we exited the airport and got lost in the flurry of horns and headlights, fluid car lanes, buses stopping erratically, jeepneys flooding the shoulders, Manila itself became lit up in patches by billboards and traffic, all of them muted in brightness by the weight of the heat.

Billboards at Night - Manila, 2012

Billboards at Night – Manila, 2012

Along roadways both hurried and congested, where shadows of high-rises bit into the southeast asian night, we headed toward the Greenbelt, a modernist shopping and living zone on the fringes of Makati City, Manila’s financial district.

Alice grunted every time she hit the horn.

Traffic in Manila moves, in Alice’s words, like water molecules. Lines are painted on the roads but they’re merely suggestions of order. Drivers all jockey for position – buses, jeepneys, motorized tricycles, pedestrians and bicycles alike. Buses stop two lanes out from the curb to pick up passengers. “Everyone looks for an open spot and they sneak in, like water molecules in a funnel.” All this she discussed at rapid-fire pace as she wove in and out of empty spots in traffic. Well, not even empty spots: corners, wedges, bits of blank space which she transformed into openings for her benefit.

Given the sometimes slogging pace, though, and the relentless honking of horns, we seemed more like logs stuck in a downstreaming river.

9.30pm Greenbelt, Makati City

The Greenbelt is a modern stretch of high-rises and a large new shopping mall, in the midst of all of which lies a long strand of outdoor restaurants and clever waterways. There are parallels in Europe – the outdoor plazas of Spain, France’s many outdoor café clusters, Gazi in Athens – but no equivalents.

In the US we have, perhaps, Riverwalk in San Antonio, or restaurant rows with open patios along seaside streets in beach towns. In the first woozy hours of post-arrival somewhere, it’s tempting to look for equivalence. Similarity. The goal of travel is to be awakened, though. To find the unfamiliar.

Greenbelt, Makati City

We three have a dinner of tapas and red wine. Eminently familiar, hardly foreign. We get caught up. Conversation between Arvin and Alice speeds forward. Accustomed as Alice had become to America, she’s having difficulty getting re-acquainted with the ways of the Philippines. Me, I’m far too recent an arrival to have formed an opinion yet.

Arvin doesn’t hide fatigue well. The conversation turns to the topic of chilling red wine – a favorite topic of mine, I could linger there endlessly. In the tropics, chilling red wine is a requirement. But enough on that. I can tell Arvin’s OFF button is quickly going to self-activate.

To Acacia Gardens. Quickly. In a blur of Alice’s fast-moving, shadow blue BMW.

Greenbelt, Makati - Talking with Hands, 2012

Greenbelt, Makati – Talking with Hands, 2012

I hate word press sometimes

11.30pm

Ahh…bed. The wormhole of time and space has caught up with us.

Blessed horizonal sleep.

manila lights at night

The Kano Who Came to Visit #2 – Getting There

HNL to MNL, 2:13pm HT

According to my calculations, our noon departure on Wednesday would evolve into a 20 hour wormhole passage through time, landing us in Manila on Thursday, at 8pm. By Hawai’i standards it should have been only 10pm on Wednesday. Where do those 20 hours go?

When traveling to Asia, I always wonder about that day we relinquish to Icarus, to be held in reserve until our return: What happens to it?

And what, I wonder, of the people who never return, who travel west across the International Date Line and stay there? They have been robbed of that Thursday, never to have the opportunity to live it. How do they feel? How does one compensate?

This I ponder as I glance around the cabin, my eyes occasionally drifting away from my Lapham’s Quarterly as the siren song of my bottle of Ativan, secured in the overhead bin above me, sings its sweet promise of tranquility.

Cozy Class: HNL to MNL, April 2012“Cozy” Class

There are two screaming demons here in the rear section of Economy. When one of these obnoxious crying monsters finally stops shrieking the other one kicks in.

There’s also a New Zealander in the seat behind me, a veritable Chatty Charlie who has so many droll anecdotes and opinions to relate to the woman seated beside him that he scarcely has time to take a breath between clauses.

Me, I’m holding out. I’ve left the Ativan up top in my backpack since we got on the plane. That’s over two hours now.

Who says I’m not a man of faith.

Ehhh…seconds, anyone?
3:20pm

After a hurried initial drink service, the flight attendants move swiftly through the aisles of Economy (I call it “cozy class”) grabbing up cups and snack wrappers. Everyone complies, apparently satisfied with their partial serving of pineapple juice or mass market chardonnay.

Not I. I am on a 20-hour odyssey to visit the land and family of my husband. To meet my in-laws for the first time. Nay, his mother, turns 70 this year. Tay, his father, learned a few weeks ago that the one his son has been living with for eight years is a man. Still, I have forgone my Ativan despite this and the raucous, romper room air cabin. I will not, however, forgo a full round of drinks.

After a momentary auditory reprieve, and the insertion of earplugs, the godless shrieking begins anew. The kiwi behind me continues to runneth over. I remain distracted by the weak pour in round one. I stew – a hungry tiger tossed a lousy strip of jerky. Soon, the kindly flight attendants drag odorous food carts up the aisles into a different time zone as I nurse the last precious drops in my cup. Bewildered am I. And a little bit pissed.

Arvin, unmolested by the noisy goings-on in the cabin, watches some droll, manufactured star vehicle of a film on the portable device he rented. (If he’s ambient Tephlon, I’m a big, unwittingly thirsty sponge.) There’s an entire roster of recognizable names – Oscar winners among them – in this derailment of a film. It’s so awful I can’t help but look over every once in a while. Like surgery. Or a motorcycle accident. The film is filled with white-toothed pretty teenagers and happy heterosexual couples frequenting fertility clinics – a star-studded monument to absolute nothingness. It seems the entire 90 minute rot is designed to provide the starlet with an endless series of contractually-mandated ‘perfection shots’, in which she looks angelic and divine while the poor mortals sharing credits with her live out their lives in second-hand banality and the cheapness of bad lighting.

Now where was I?

Oh yes.

I was about to chastise my neighbors for sitting by in idle submission as their empty drinks cups were taken away by flight attendants who are hurrying – on a 10 hour flight? – to serve and clear, serve and clear, serve and clear, as if we had somewhere to get to in such a hurry. I think 10 hours and 39 minutes is more than sufficient to casually dole out a few drinks and some implausible cinematic scenarios. Why not let us linger?

Just as these ruminations stirred in my mind, and as the Ativan in the overhead called out softly “Jeffrey… Jeffrey…”, the aisle became suddenly filled with drinks carts. A veritable riot of them.  There was liquor to be had – seconds even! Thirds, by the time dinner arrived.

Rapture. Hallelujah. It was bliss.

Those horrible crying children aside.

Do as I say, not as I—.

Six hours remained. After some negotiation with the flight attendants, Arvin and I relocated to an empty deuce in an exit row (how is this even possible that they’re empty?), far from the chattering New Zealander and his female neighbor, she who announced that she would prefer to keep her window shade open throughout the flight. This in spite of the fact that it was still daylight out there and most of the passengers wanted to pursue a vampiric sleep instead of bad cinema and idle chatter.

We lug our carry-ons, blankets, pillows and accoutrements ten rows forward. I pop the lid of my happy stash: it’s Ativan time.

Philippines - islands east of Luzon, April 2012
Three glasses of wine and a pill, and sleep descended up on me like a whirl of angels. It helped that we could stretch our legs. Five hours pass and we awake to clanking glassware, rattling carts, and the frequent slamming of the toilet door.

As the plane begins its descent along with the sunset, eastern islands come into view. Pale clouds suggest a sentimentality which is quickly traded in for a dense, overhead urban view as the principal island of the Philippines, Luzon, and its metropolis emerge.

Hazy. Unknown.

Wait, wait, this is too fast. I’m not ready yet.

Land of 7,107 islands – at low tide
The Philippines is a nation of 7,107 islands, some of which disappear under water at high tide. It seems a metaphor worth hanging onto.

Nighttime in the Philippines is here – the plane has landed – and with it the surrender of all expectation. My brain, as well as my eyes, will simply have to adjust.

Manila - hazy night, April 2012

Manila - hazy night, April 2012

 

The Kano Who Came to Visit #1 – Southeast Asia on .5mg a Day

We leave for a two-week trip to the Philippines today. It’s my mother-in-law’s 70th birthday. She’s never met me. I’ve never been. And my father-in-law only learned recently that Jeffrey – at least in my case – is not a woman’s name.

Don’t fret

We’ll stay with the in-laws for a few days outside of manic Manila; take a brief interlude (just the two of us) in the sublime wondrousness of Sangat; take a short holiday en familia (all 11 of us) to Cebu; then finish off our two weeks back in the steamy suburb of Bulacan.

Fortunately I made an appointment to see the doctor the other day. The man with the scrip pad. It’s going to be ‘meet the family’on half a milligram a day.

Kit

Travel Kit

No greater place

To say things have been disruptive of late – unsettled, vague, doing a twirling limbo – is an understatement. My ambiguous state of being mirrors a large swath of America for whom the future was once a clearly wrought fabric of certainty and possibility. Seems we’ve spent the past four years scrambling out from the debris of the collapse of Lehman Brothers, in search of steady light, solid ground and a renewed sense of direction.

Maybe recovery is just a half a milligram away?

I love my country but I sometimes can’t wait to get the hell out of it and go somewhere new. I get a thrill out of being challenged by language and circumstances and the discovery of alternate modes of living, alternate modes of thought, and alternate sorts of history borne out in strange and varying pavements beneath my feet. But also because I believe the adage that familiarity can breed contempt. Given my current disgruntled state – and the tangible benefits of a change of perspective – it’s probably wise that I’m going somewhere unfamiliar.

Just what the goat farming taxi driver ordered

The driver who liveried us to SFO is Italian. A Neopalitan, wearing a short thick overcoat made from scratchy beige wool with what looked like orangeish streaks, like leaf shards, scattered throughout. It might have been the height of taste in Morristown, New Jersey, but oddly enough, despite its refreshing uniqueness it wasn’t quite sure what to make of itself in San Francisco.

The driver’s name was Claudius – a strong Italian name: ebullient, absolute. His curly black hair was forced into submission with heavy duty hair gel. It rolled into sculpted ringlets behind his ears down to the collar of his coat. Clipped onto his right ear was a wireless headset. His father shipped him to America at the age of 17 to learn English and he never turned back.

The only son of a goat farmer and his wife from southern Italy, Claudius loves America. “America’s a great country,” he extolled as he drove the black sedan down a quick moving 101. “The system isn’t great but it’s the best. Opportunity is available to everyone.”

One supposes.

It hasn’t felt like that in a while.